Responding to problematic and harmful sexual behaviour

You’ve recognised a problematic or harmful sexual behaviour - what's next?

The way adults respond in those early moments can have a significant impact on the wellbeing and support of everyone involved. The aim of any response is to ensure children, young people and families receive the support they need.

An appropriate response may range from:

• redirecting the behaviour

• providing guidance

• monitoring behaviour and child wellbeing

• consulting with specialist services

• referring to a service

• making a mandatory report.

The right response depends on

• Your role.

• The child or young person's age and developmental stage.

• The nature and context of the behaviour.

• Any safety or wellbeing concerns including considering the specific supports needed for families in instances of sibling sexual harm.

You don’t need to be an expert

The early stages of response don’t require specialist expertise. People working with children and young people play an important role in:

• providing immediate support

• gathering information

• ensuring concerns are escalated and addressed early.

Your work with the child and knowledge about them will form part of a broader response across different services.

You're part of a bigger picture

Good collaboration includes knowing when and how you should:

• seek advice

• share relevant information

• make referrals

• engage additional supports.

Use the service listing to see what support is available in your area.

Your role in the bigger picture matters

While you may only be one part of a broader response, your role is an important one. The way adults respond when a behaviour is noticed can influence whether children, young people and families feel supported, understood and able to access help. The first conversations, actions and decisions can shape what happens next and set the foundation for ongoing support, for all children and young people involved.

Many people worry about saying the wrong thing or making a situation worse. You are not expected to have all the answers. However, understanding the principles of an effective immediate response can help you feel more confident and ensure the next steps are safe, supportive and proportionate.

When the harm happens online

Problematic and harmful sexual behaviours can occur online, offline or across both environments. When harm occurs online, the impact can be just as significant as harm that occurs in person.

Online behaviours may require additional response considerations, including:

• preserving evidence

• addressing ongoing online risks

• accessing specialist supports.