Talking with children about pornography at 9-11 years: parenting tips
A guide to help parents and carers talk with children aged 9-11 about pornography, including how to respond to exposure and promote respect and safety online.
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Published on 2025
How this resource can help
Use this resource to
Understand the potential impacts of pornography on pre-teens
Share practical guidance with parents and carers on talking with children aged 9-11 about pornography
Support conversations with parents and carers who are unsure how to respond when a pre-teen has seen sexual content online
Help promote healthy messages about bodies, consent, sex and online safety
This resource covers
How pornography can affect pre-teens
Why it's important to talk about pornography with pre-teens
When and how to talk with pre-teens about pornography, and what to say
Advice for safe technology use, especially as young people spend more time independently outside the home
Ways to respond if a pre-teen sees pornography, either deliberately or accidentally
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If you are a parent or carer
You’re in the right place! This is a guide written for you – it explains how and when you can talk to your pre-teen about pornography, and what to say. If you’re worried about something specific, you don’t have to figure it out alone.
Last reviewed by Together We Can: 26 October 2026
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